在给傅聪的家书中，傅雷先生反复强调一定要节制感情，要能控制感情，而不是让感情控制。“得失置之度外”“胜败乃兵家常事”“养兵千日”关键在于“养”字。我想人的性格是晚成的，是要“养”的。昨天跟彦羽聊到高中的我和现在的我，高中的我是外向的、感性的是moody、emotional，又或者说是多血质夹带胆汁质；现在的我也许本质上并没有发生太多的变化，但我希望自己能够具备一些stable personality，所以常劝自己要stay rational，成为mild rose，不要太过aggressive，不要时常树敌等等。

“那夜莺的样子生得确实很漂亮，这是不可否认的，但是她有感情吗？我怕没有！许多美术家一般，尽是表面的形式，没有诚心的内涵，肯定不会为她其实就像别人而牺牲。她所想的无非是音乐，可是谁不知道艺术是自私的。虽然，我们总须承认她有醉人的歌喉，可惜那种歌声是毫无意义一点也不实用。”
●A Nightingale and the Rose.
▶王尔德/著
▶林徽因/译

#Winter Bear-V[音乐]#

listen, rose. You're going to get out of here. You’re going to go on and you’re going to make lots of babies and you’re going to watch them grow and you’re going to die an old, an old lady, warm in your bed. Not here. Not this might. Not like this.

But now you know there was a man named Jack Dawson and that he saved me... in every way that a person can be saved. I don't even have a picture of him. He exists now only in my memory.

《泰坦尼克号》——1997